Self-Help notes #1

For people to take you seriously, do these

1.Be confident

-being confident means you are taking yourself seriously--so in consequence,people will do the same

-how?be more assertive,practice good posture

-to be confident,have the right Attitude :-

🎈accept new experiences and mistakes.as long as you've tried your level best,whatever happens,you'll accept

🎈be comfortable with uncertainties

🎈have faith in your ability

🎈believe that you can cope,not necessarily succeed

🎈dont be so hard on yourself

🎈dont need the approval of others

🎈have curiosity-consider a child who loves to try things out

🎈dont be arrogant-because you'd tend to take risk beyond your ability when you think you're better than others.

-after all,confident people rarely aware that they are confident😉

🎈fake it till you make it-your mind does not the truth/ falsehood of something 

-it will act based on what you 'tell' it

-to have something,you have to repeat till you make it!

🎈use to the fullest/leeverage your strength-if you focus on your weaknesses,where would confidence come from?

-think of any of your strength, and tell/affirm yourself that you are great--that simple!

🎈dont be obsessed with perfectionism-

Remember nothing is so ever perfect in this world.so,allow yourself to 'bump into' and make mistakes

-perfectionists always have low self-esteem because they always crticise themselves

🎈appreciate what you already have-confidence comes frm our belief that we are successful.so,take note of your successes in life

-no matter where you are now,you MUST have achieved much more than you think

-so,avoid thinking abt your future self and compare with yourself now--you'll get depressed!

🎈make smaller goals for near future-and dont forget to praise yourself/celebrate!

-this is important to bring back self-confidence

☘reminder

-confidence is a process,it can't be achieved overnight

-you need patience and perseverance to do this

-despite the challenges,you have to believe that you'll achieve it and that it's under your control

Rants on life (currently)

Hye blog..uuu let's blow some dust first  shall we teheee..sory for the long hiatus,it's been quite a while,well not really ahaaha apa ceq merepek ni..huhu I'm in an overwhelming state kot tu yg panjang mukadimah

Anyways,this time around,I'm not gonna make things long winded(hopefully)..just a couple of rants on how am I doing currently...so let's start shall we

1.pupillage

One more month (plus minus) to end my pupillage life..can you believe it-the 9-months bittersweet life as a chambee is about to end..I'm still in awe as to how I finally made it(almost made it) since I still remember during the first few months i dread about going to work..it was never easy back then,seriously.I even planned to quit,not once but for 2-3 times that thought came to me bahaahha..so funny coz I couldnt believe how immature I was at that point of time.But looking at where I am now,I couldn't be any prouder with myself.The transition from becoming an immature fresh grad to an almost legal lawyer is something I shall remember and for the rest of my life.It was a life-changing moment for me-big time.I'm not really interested to talk bout my scope of work coz that is not the thing that gives so much impact to myself,but yea going thru the daily life as a pupil in chamber teaches me about myself-I think one post is never enough for me to tell on that..but from this already-long para,I'm putting this--it's never an easy journey,but a meaningful and a great one for my self-growth.So yeah what's life after pupillage?well no definite answer yet for that! Let's just everything over first,go for vacay,sleep for one whole month and only think of that later hahaha

2.thought on changing career?

I've always had this doubt during pupillage that I'm gonna be a great lawyer once I get #lawyered soon..or at least this is not gonna be something I'd enjoy doing for the rest of my life or even in the near future.I had a very tough time thinking about this as my heart and my mind collaboratively go against my thoughy but sometimes they seem to concur with me..sheesshh.I've read once that if you believe in your dreams,go for it,persevere,and most importantly dont ever give up.So if I ever want to hold on to this motivation,I must shun the thought that I'm not gonna be a good lawyer,simply because I could if I just believe that great things take time to happen.But the problem now lies in the second thought of not becoming a lawyer as it is not something I'd enjoy doing.See the conflict now?I'm sure most people in this whole entire planet have or may be going through the same thing as I do,but the thing is how to even solve this..? One decision may not be favourable for everyone.There is no specific and particular decision for everyone.Despite that,I must make a decision, and I know for a fact that the more diverged the road I'm gonna pick from where I am now,the more changes I'd have to face--the good and the bad

3.spiritual changes

Gosh why is my post revolving around changes ja ni...hahaha.Ok2 let's just get back to the sub-topic--I'm not sure if I have correctly put it but my point here is on the inner changes-particularly on my connection with my Creator.Just few weeks ago,I experienced a beautiful feeling within myself.It is something so pure,free and most importantly,calming.I had this absolute or to sound more realistic-controlled feelings and attachment to the things around me-less reactive thoughts and actions, open-mindedness and contented with the good and bad that is happening arounnd me.It's an amazingly beautiful feeling.And to make it more meaningful and beautiful,I feel a strengthened tie and knot with my Creator as I enjoy and stayed mindful throughout my prayer,in remembering Him and in observing almost everything that He orders.This temporary feeling I felt got me into thinking that I become the best version of myself when my feeling is at this state.Finally I've realised this is the result when your Iman is rising and when you priroritise your love for Allah above everything else--he fulfills you,enriches you and makes everything to be bearable..and that also makes the saying 'When you have Allah,you have everything' sensible.ok,enough on describing the feelings.This temporary experience presses me on thinking about my purpose in life,on why Islam requires us to always purify ourselves internally and the reason is known to me already since I've felt it.I am not born into a family who practices Islam by heart--I mean alhamdulillah so far that I've known,my family observes the basic principles of becoming a Muslim, but to claim that we are a perfect example of a practising Muslim family is way too exaggerating..I think I acquire an improved understanding about my religion not mostly from my family--it is always the tough times that 'force' me into searching on the reasons of where did I go wrong with all my religious rituals which dont seem to be 'working' its effects on me as we all believe when we do good,we'll get the same in return.And yes,it is during the tough times that Allah blesses me with that beautiful feelings after I prayed hard for Allah to make my heart detached from everything in this world as it gets me overwhelmed and makes me feel uneasy most of the time.It is when this beautiful feeling is being 'lended' to me too makes me thinking that the spiritual changes makes me a better person,puts my life into perspective and gives me strength to endure life's challenges.For that matter,I am seriously thinking into putting effort to be able to be in that state again,and if possible forever.

Okayyy that is a very long-winded post already teheee...I shall stop now before I make this even longer and crappy haha..with that,toodles!